I started my life wanting to be a medical doctor, mostly to impress my father. I graduated in 2015 from the University of Calgary with Bachelor of Science degrees in both Biological Sciences and Psychology (with distinction), along with completing an undergraduate thesis in neuropsychology. After unexpectedly losing a close friend during this time, and experiencing burnout upon graduating, I had no choice but to hear the faint whispers of my heart: my true passions lay in dissecting the human mind, not the human body. Unrealized to me at the time, images of medical school dropped to the wayside as I went on to travel around the world for 2 years, starting off in search of myself and ending off ready to pursue a more meaningful-to-me, humanistic purpose in the world. During those 2 years, I solo backpacked 11 countries, completed my 200hr Yoga Teacher Training, attended my first women’s circle and ecstatic dance, and started coming home to my soul.
Returning to my physical home in Canada, I immersed myself in what I love: personal development, healing, and relationship education. I received my certifications in Neuro Linguistic Programming and Matrix Therapies. I enrolled in a 9-month program at The Relationship School called The Deep Psychology of Intimate Relationships and went on to graduate from the second year of this program in 2019, Relationship Coaching Level 1 (Individual Relationship Coaching). Now, I am working to complete my Relationship Coaching Level 2 Certification for Couples with every intention to continue down this path of living, breathing, and learning about relationships
I’d like to share a little more about myself as I think my story is relevant to the work that I do.
I was born into a Hutterite colony and spent my childhood years immersed in that culture and what comes with it. When my parents decided to leave and provide different opportunities for their children, we essentially became immigrants to our own Country (or something like that). Without needing to go into too much detail, you can imagine the communal, traditional values that were instilled in me at a young age, and the growth that is required to create a balance of expressing my individuality while holding on to the beauty of community. It has been a journey, finding my way between 1. dropping myself for connection and 2. rigidly thinking about only myself, generally airing towards the former.
It took me 27 years of dropping myself to realize that I was tired of not getting my needs met in my relationships. That I was exhausted from pretending to be someone I was not just to ‘get’ love and connection. That I was depleted from over-extending myself and agonizing about why I was not getting the love I deserved - from my family, friends, and romantic partners. It took me 27 years to realize that the antidote was NOT to go to the other extreme of isolated independence. I had a raging inner victim, and it was time to turn towards her, see and soothe her, and listen to what she needed to say. Most of all, it was time to take responsibility for where I was.
It took me 9 months of intensive relationship education and dissecting of myself to realize that it ALL boiled down to me. NOT that it was my fault, not at all, but that it was MY lack of boundaries, self-worth, speaking up, and ownership of my own relational life that had me feeling so powerless and depressed. That it is me who needs to consciously create the relationships that I so desire, starting with myself and how I show up in them, despite where I had ‘learned’ any patterns.
The deeply intensive personal work I have done over the last 3 years, and continue to do, has opened up doors for me to share these techniques and processes with others, like you, who wish to consciously create their relational lives. My natural tendencies towards curiosity, nurturing, and thinking and feeling deeply have become refined Coaching Skills through my studies at The Relationship School with founder, Jayson Gaddis. My work will bring you, or you and your partner, into more alignment by supporting and challenging you to fully own your relational life and create that which you so desire.
I find this work absolutely fascinating and life changing, and couldn’t be more grateful that my partner, Georges, and I are on the growth path together to un-learn and re-learn ‘How to do relationships even better’, and that I get to share all of this with you! My heart is feeling full and in alignment. I’d like to leave you with a meaningful insight to me: It took me a million downward facing dogs to realize yoga is a practice, and it took me a million failed relationships to realize that relationships are a practice too.